As the final chapter of the birth table for one. draws to a conclusion, I’m reflecting on how different my life is from the first attempts at writing sitting in The Brain on that fateful Art Crawl night after Larry’s diagnosis.
Seven years. Seven. Fucking. Years. Four surgeries. Three deaths. One nervous breakdown. Five days of recording. One album. One life.
I’m far less angry. I’m far less scared. I’m far less impatient. I’m far less tolerant of negativity.
Throughout all of this change, I have been re-evaluating my life and what it means to be me. An old acquaintance used to say “Simplify and do everything.” as a joke, however this saying has summed up the past three years of my life. As I jettison the trappings and detritus I have had surrounding me, the resulting physical, mental and emotional space is allowing me to focus more on things that are important to me.
As my life becomes simpler, I’m able to focus on more. I’m also making important choices that have impacted on my happiness and health in a positive manner.
Seven years ago, I was close to four hundred pounds, having replaced my chemical addictions with food to medicate my unhappiness. Seven years ago, I was so focused on my career that both my health and chosen form of expression (music) languished and suffered. I was in my thirties with sleep apnea, high blood pressure, failing knees and ankles and pre-diabetic.
I thought I was happy, but truly the one light in my life was diagnosed with cancer and we focused on fighting the battle for his life. Fast forward to now and I’ve survived the loss of my husband, my father, a beloved animal companion, been through a year of treatment for PTSD and anxiety, continue to battle my weight, keeping it down to a healthy level.
I am now hovering around two hundred pounds, eating a clean diet, drug and alcohol free almost thirteen years, breathing easily and most of my other health issues have resolved.
I am also writing further music that reflects a need to carry on, to learn and grow, as well as collaborating with other songwriters and music makers…my catharsis is complete – time to remove my life from suspended animation and continue moving forward.
Simplify and do everything indeed.