People have commented on how quiet I’ve been as of late and some have indicated that they are finding this concerning
I haven’t written or posted much, because I’ve been processing a lot of thoughts and emotions as of late. I have found life to be increasingly noisy and I’m not interested in further contributing to the noise and chaos around me so I’m focusing on listening to discern some semblance of order.
- the loss of a musical friend and mentor due to cancer.
- the loss of a musical friend and collaborator due to cancer.
- a relative being diagnosed with a terminal form of leukemia.
- a relative being diagnosed with a terminal form of cancer.
- family members being physically hurt and injured and dealing with the frustrations of rehabilitation and recovery.
- co-workers with 18-35 years’ experience losing their current positions and being let go or demoted.
- friends whose parents are severely ill and not expected to see the new year.
- friends and mentors experiencing financial hardship as their city government is tying a project up in red tape and affecting their ability to proceed forward.
- an individual from Larry’s past making an unexpected return to the scene.
- many friends are leaving the city for greener pastures and forcing me to re-evaluate what “home” means to me.
- at the same time, under the tutelage of Lori Yates, I’ve written two good songs and have the bones for a third potential song underway.
- I’ve also achieved a goal in my spiritual studies which allows me to continue onward towards ordination.
There is a lot of “noise” in my life and it’s taking its toll on me, so I’m having to take time to withdraw, regroup and sort through.It’s especially difficult when there’s little I can do about any of these issues beyond mitigating my reactions to the situation and offering what support I can to those directly affected. For someone who tends to be a care giver and likes to have some control over any situation, this is a difficult thing to accept and I’m trying hard not to beat myself up over being ineffectual and feeling impotent.
These surprises are also forcing me to re-evaluate where things are in my life. To take a step back and consider what is important to me and why this is the case. As I do so, it’s clear that simplifying my life must continue and I need to stop trying to be all things to everyone and just be who I am to be.
And right now I am tired and kinda lonely – but this too, shall pass.